I have not been here much lately, as I have sunk into a pretty low depression. While, thankfully, my husband has not spent any full nights away from home recently...he has been out frequently, and I have spent a lot of time home alone the past few evenings...which I don't tolerate well. I get lonely very easily. I have been having some pretty horrible nightmares...which, of course, have affected my sleep. I'm becoming increasingly confused as to what is going on in my husband's mind and heart. It has been mutually decided that when our lease is up, we will be moving into another apartment together. And while I'm grateful that he wants to keep together...I'm confused because he will still not put his wedding ring back on...and we have had no conversation regarding reconciliation. 95% I could almost forget that he asked for a divorce...we act as we always did...except there are no "I love you's" and no wedding rings. It's just confusing to me.
My husband has said that for this 4th of July weekend he will not be around much. I don't know exactly what that means...but it makes me nervous...not knowing what his plans are. I know I need to trust God in all of this...that He will restore my marriage...and I am trying.
I ask that you please pray for clarity, and peace.

TWIMC,
everyone remember that everthing can be placed in the hands of God and; provided you trust fully, the end result will be what you need most.
Trust in the lord and be still.
Personally I have had to pull my wife out of bad situations more than once, had her confess and repent, and now that we pray together out loud, Every NIGHT. This has likely helped her give up alchohol and cheating, it has also helped me understand human flaws and find a way to forgive.
Keep Jesus as your role model and all will be well. Before you act or speak sttep back and ask yourself "how would our savior act?" This is true for those that have been saved and those in need of saving. Thank you, God bless

JM..like we all keep saying, surrender everything to the Lord and keep praying. TET made reference to the fact that it is very hard to do. I know, I am trying to do the same thing. In the end, I need to accept whatever is the will of the Lord. I pray that it is the restoration of my marriage but I really don't know. The Lord knows what is in my heart. I now pray for guidance as to what I am to do. What does the future hold. The Lord has made such positive changes in me I will forever be a better husband, father and man. For that I am eternaly grateful. However, I don't know how long I can keep going like this. I am thankful that the Lord has given me more time with my Lisa but the thought of the divorce weighs on my mind every waking minute. I try to surrender it all but I am stumbling often. I ask for all of your prayers that I remain strong in my faith and hope. I pray for some type of guidance from the Lord as to what I should do. Please pray for my wife, Lisa, that she may accept the Lord into her heart and change her mind about breaking up what the Lord had brought together. I love her so but I know that the Lord's will may be for something different. I pray the same for everyone on this site who is standing for their marriage...TET, JM, Dana, Sheree and all others. I pray ord that you comfort all of us as we struggle to understand these significant changes in our lives. Don't ever let us forget that You always walk with us. Don't ever let us take for granted the blessings you have bestowed upon us in the years we have had with our spouses and our children. In Your name we pray. AMEN.

JM,
I know how you feel. But just like the others have said, keep on praying and surrender everything to the Lord. With my case, my husband filed for the divorce. We still live in the same house, but he sleeps in the other room and does he's own thing. It really is painfully for us not knowing what our other half are doing in their lives now, but just as we say, surrender it and don't worry!! Easy to say, but that's how it works. Just take care of yourself. And remember that we are here for you. Don't give up!!
Lord,
I ask of you to please embrace JM right now as she is feeling depressed because of her marriage situation. I ask of you Lord to enter her heart so she may feel your love which is lacking from her husband, be her husband right now Lord. Comfort her, hear her cries. And I ask that you do the same to everyone here in our prayer circle to restore and save our marriage. Pray the Serenity Prayer. Maybe this would help you.
Grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change: The courage to change the things we can; and the wisdon to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at at time; Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace; Taking as Jesus did,this sinful world as it is; not as we would have it. Trusting that you will make all things right, if we surrender to your will. so that we may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with you forever in the next.--Reinhold Niebuhr

JM, all you can really do is keep praying. Pray that the Lord comfort you. Pray that the Lord guide you. Pray that the Lord works in your husbands heart. Surrender everything to the Lord and be confident He is with you regardless of the outcome. Like you, my situation is very confusing to me. Lisa has filed for divorce and yet we go along at home like nothing is wrong. Our home life is great and lisa and I are doing things together. Yet when i ask her to end the divorce, she says no. She is determined to proceed with it. It makes no sense. I go nuts trying to figure it out. Although I often stumble, I'm surrendering everything to the Lord. I am going to be the best husband and father I can be until the end. I have to believe that God's will is going to be done, even if it is not the restoration that I want. I am going to continue to pray for my Lisa's health and salvation, many times a day. I am going to continue to pray for you, Dana, TET, Sheree and everyone else on this site. That's all i can really do. It is in the Lord's hands. I know it is very hard and it really hurts deep inside your heart but that is what you need to do as well. Anything is possible with God regardless of what we see happening with man. Keep praying and trust in the Lord's will for your future. Since He always walks with you, you are always protected. Please pray for Lisa and I as well. I love her so and pray that the Lord's will is for us to stay married, raise our family and grow in Christ.

Lord, I share this Christmas gift that was given to me, for the consolation of JM.

*SERENITY*

God grant me the serenity to accept the
things I cannot change: the courage to change
the things I can: and the wisdom to
know the difference. *AMEN*

JM, I pray that something was said, or done today, that will bring you comfort and a new outlook on the things that's plaguing your life. In Jesus' name I pray. *AMEN*