I found out recently that a Christian friend (so I thought) had an affair with my husband. She led me to believe that she was so much, my best friend and God brought us together. She also goes to our Church Recovery Group. She was at at our Church Recovery Group (while I was in the hospital after an overdose over this affair) and brought up that she had nothing to do with my husband.
My husband admitted that the affair took place and she wanted him to lie. I spoke with Pastor who told me she denies the whole thing and we told him she was not telling the truth. I am so distraught over this whole thing. Pastor was suppose to confront her with this issue, but I did not hear back from him, and the Recovery Group was tonight.
I feel like it might be time to find another Church. It seems that Pastor is unable to confront things that need to be taken care of.
He is head leader of the Group at Church. I just can not go back to the Group, and she was there at Group tonight. I can not be in the same room with her. I am deeply hurt!!!!
HELP!!!!!!!!!

I am very sorry about the situation you are in I will keep you in my prayers. I will pray for you to have the courage and strength to make it through this and ask the Lord to provide you with wisdom to know what to do during this time.

I'm sorry Cathy for the deceit and betrayal of a so-called friend who you've entrusted your world with. I can understand your reluctance to have anything to do with the recovery group, and the pastor's inability to bring both parties together for reconcilliation and restoraton of hurt feelings. I would advise you to ask your husband to attend this recovery group, along with you and your ex-girlfriend, for the soul purpose of him supporting you in front of this adultery, where he can confess to you and her, and the pastor in front of all witnesses, that the affair did in deed take place, and that he's sorrowful and repentful to you and wishes to make amends to God and you for violating your trust and marital vows. This would be so therapuetic to you and to your husband to confront this problem face to face with humility and forgiveness. This would prove to you the deepest commitment of your husband to make things right with you and God, and restore what you once had. I could go on and on about reasons you should befoghting for this marriage, and the most important one is that your husband confessed the infidelity to you. Lord, I pray that cathy has the strength and wherewithal, to embrace forgiveness in the face of hurt and shame. I pray that her Pastor step up to the plate and do as pastor'e should do, and that is to be a restorer of broken and hurt souls. In Jesus' name I pray. *AMEN*

Dear Lord, we pray for Cathy and ask that you will help her draw strength from this incident. Dear Lord, we ask that you also guide as to what she should do next. In Jesus Name We Pray Amen.