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God's will JM	Jul 24 2008
I need to ask for prayers for dicernment. Lately I have been "feeling" as if God is asking me to stop fighting and allow my husband to go through with the divorce. I have had suspicions that my husband has cheated on me...and (unless I am misunderstanding) it says in the Bible that sexual immorality is a Biblical reason for divorce. Every God-given leader in my life (including the pastor who married my husband and I) has told me to divorce him. I have stood firmly on God's word that He hates divorce. However, now I am beginning to wonder if maybe God is speaking to me, and telling me it is ok to leave him, and allow him to go through with the divorce he asked for. I have been fighting so hard for reconciliation, and I do not want to divorce my husband. I want to do God's will...but I don't know if this would be His will, as I don't know how He could be calling me to do something that in the Bible He says He hates. I don't know if this is the voice of the enemy, or if I am just reluctant because I don't want my marriage to be over. Please pray that God would guide me and make it perfectly clear what His will is, and that He would give me the strength to follow it.
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Words of encouragement	Jul 30 2008
I am new here...but after reading this I felt as though I should "speak". I too believe that God hates divorce for any reason. That each "offense" is a true chance for forgiveness and to allow God to work in and through us. I am in the same spot as some of you...but God will never leave us or forsake us. Pull so close to the Lord right now. Pour your heart to Him and allow Him to fill your desires and needs. Let go of your husband, don't give up, but let him go to the Lord. Truly let go and allow God the room He needs to do the work. In the meantime allow God to change you and transform you into who HE wants. Just draw so close to the Lord and ask Him to speak to you through HIS word.
Prayer John	Jul 24 2008
Dear Lord, we ask that you will reconcile this marriage as divorce is not of you. We ask for your hand to be on this marriage. In Jesus Name We Pray Amen.
JM Tet	Jul 24 2008
JM, I pray to the Lord that he will give you the gift of discernment so that you will be able to have answers to your questions and prayers. Don't loose hope, follow what God tells you in your heart. Here's a passage from the bible:"I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance, to the full, till it overflows"(John 10:10). God doesn't want you to live with a "barely-get-by attitude. He has new seasons of increase in front of you. He wants you to thrive, to live an abundant, overflowing life. Sometimes when things seem difficult, it's easy to slip into a "survival mode."When times get tough, it's tempting to just hunker down and settle where you are. If you're not careful, you'll develop a survival mentality that will keep you from growing and releasing your faith. You'll be happy just to "break even." But as God's children, we're not supposed to just break even, we're supposed to break through to a new level! We're supposed to believe for more of God's favor, increase, and promotion no matter what is happening in the world around us. Make up your mind today that no matter how difficult things may seem, you are going to thrive every day! Take hold of God's promises and declare that you are rising higher. As you continue to expect His favor and increase, you'll see His hand of blessing in your life, and you will thrive and live in victory all the days of your life. I'm like you, having suspicions with my husband that he too is having an affair.(Of course, I have no proof of it and he tells me that he has no other woman) But, you know what my attitude towards it? I don't let it bother me (it's not easy to do), because the more I think of it, the more I get depressed and discouraged. That is satan working on our minds. He wants us to think wrongly about our prodigals. When ever I get into this situation, I pray to God to send the Holy Spirit upon me. To void all the negative thoughts in my mind. And when He does send the Holy spirit, I find peace in my mind and in my heart. Remember that you already have surrendered your problems with God and He is already working on it behind the scence. That's why I'm still standing for my marriage. It is really difficult for us to go on day by day not thinking of negative thoughts. That's what satan wants us to do. Don't let him win this battle. Keep on praying!!! Think of all the blessings that come your way. Don't just dwell on this problem. We all are blessed by God and we don't know it because we are so focused on our problem. So, thank God for being with you. Thank God for you have us your, prayer partners. Enjoy your life to the fullest. It's not the end of the world for us. Our victory is on its way. And it will be a glorious one. We may not know when or how, but keep in mind that you are already victorious in the eye's of God because of your faith in Him. A Prayer for Today Father in heaven, thank You for giving me life. I choose today to agree with Your Word which says I can thrive and enjoy my life to the full. Help me see Your hand at work more and more each day. I bless You and give You praise. In Jesus' Name. Amen.
Ahhh Dana	Jul 24 2008
JM, I hear what your saying. My husband had been staying out really late after he told me he wanted us to break up. But never before only after, then after a time of this I started to think perhaps another woman. Even though in my heart I didn't' feel that was really the case or reason for his being out. But the enemy started to use my mind as a playground feeding on the unknown, but the suspicions tossed into my fleshy little pea brain. I would never assume, I say also pray that the Lord bring into the light what is in the darkness. Whatever your husband is doing that you know not what it is, ask the Lord is it something you need to know if so to please reveal it to you, if not to take away your suspicions, worries and anxieties of it. Give the Lord all your cares. I've been trying to do so my self, with all the encouragement from all of you and others on another site, it's helped tremendiously. The Lord will take our cares and worries and thoughts under his command if we just give them to him. Trust me so so much easier to say than do. :-) Lord take JM's thoughts, and reveal to her what she needs to know, what she doesn't please take her concerns away. Lord please reveal whatever is in the darkness and bring it into the light. In Jesus Name Amen
Clarification JM	Jul 24 2008
First, THANK YOU all for your prayers and words of encouragement. The website has been very helpful and encouraging. I saved the link to my favorites list, and fear a lot of work time will be spent there. :-) Second, I want to provide some clarification...I do NOT know for certain that my husband has been unfaithful. SOME of his actions (such as staying out all night) have made me suspicious...though he denies ANY unfaithfulness (yes, I know he could be lying). As with any suspicion...there is always room for other interpretation...and that is where the trouble comes in...while I may be suspicious...I am also human...and these suspicions could potentially just be my imagination running wild. I ask for prayer in this area too...that I would not be paranoid/overly suspicious...but also that I would not be blinded.
God Divorced Israel, And Vice-Versa! Michael.	Jul 24 2008
God forbids for anyone to stay in an abusive marriage, that is why he says that "except for infidelity, adultery" because this joins Him in on the action, because Jesus lives withing us, and we cannot join Him with this abomination. God does hates divorce, and He hates sin period, especially adultery. How many times have the Israelites and we, left our first love (God) and went a whoring after other gods? we violated the marriage vows, when we breach the covenant contract between God and us. It's the same thing with our earthly marriages, we cannot allow unrighteousness to continue to be entwined with our purified bodies. Your husband promised to be faithful unconditional, and he has broken that vow, so he has to suffer the consequences for his actions, just as we all do for making bad choices. God will not be mocked, no adulterer shall inherit the kingdom of God. Is your body the temple of God? then how can you allow these sins to persist? If God allows this to continue, then he will be mocked, because he implicitly states that you have grounds for divorce based on adultery. Now, if you be willing to allow this to continue, you're an accessory to this adultery. God said that He would allow an unsaved spouse to remain with the saved spouse. Because the saved spouse santifies the unsaved one. But He won't allow for the unsaved to be unfaithful to the spouse by way of adultery, because this is a binding contract to God, as well as to the marriage couple, and the only way that this contract can be broken is for one of the two be deceased, or one of the two commits adultery. Remember, Jesus says "before this wasn't so!" but, because of the hardness of your hearts, Moses allowed for you to write a certificate of divorce. You have the option to do what you feel is right in your heart, because God allows divorce under these circumstances. I'm not telling you to divorce your husband however, I'm saying that the decision is up to you based on your knowledge of your husband likelihood of change. I pray your strength, whatever your decision be. But you do have a legal right to divorce, if you so choose. Be blessed! AMEN
I Agree Dave	Jul 24 2008
JM, I agree with Dana and Sheree. I would listen to what the Lord tells you in your heart, not what "man" tells you. I pray for you and the others daily and will continue to do so. I too, often refer to the web-site that Sheree and Dana made refeence to. It has alot of good prayers, testimonies and guidance. Keep praying and the Lord will tell you what He wants you to do. May the Lord bless and keep all of you. In His name we pray. AMEN.
agree Dana	Jul 24 2008
I agree with Sheree. Perhaps whatever our prodigals do, don't do, whatever, is part of the plan for the Lord to work out what it is to be worked out in not only the prodigals lives but our lives as well.
try this Sheree	Jul 24 2008
JM I will pray that God gives you the answers you need. try this site that I have been using. Personally I would say STAND... but everybodys path is not the same... My husband now lives with the other woman and I still believe that God has called me to stand in the gap. its hard its painfull but God never told us it would be easy. I also know that the right thing is usually the hardest things to do. ="http://rejoiceministries.org">http://rejoiceministries.org
ps JM Dana	Jul 24 2008
"Lord I pray that You and You alone with Your Holy Spirit speak directly to JM's heart, guide her, give her wisdom, direct her paths, make Your desires her desires. Lord you forgave all of us for our sins, and provided restoration for us through Your son Jesus. Please give JM very clear direction on what Your will is for her and her husband and their marriage. Please filter out any advise or opinions that come her way that are not directly coming from you, if I said anything in my previous writings that are not from you please forgive me and filter them from JM's heart. I ask all this and thank you for all the guidance and direction your going to give to JM. In Jesus Name Amen"

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