Prayer Request

Hello Cassie,

Thanks for your prayer request. My marriage has gone from being wonderful to rock bottom in the last year and a half. Luckily there was no adultry but theres so much selfishness. We have done two marraige courses. The first one was just before our daughter was born and that went well. Then all of a sudden one problem after another came along. I spoke with my Church and we were able to attend a second time without paying for it. Brent refuses to attend counselling. I have been going for the last 4/5 weeks now. It's called Marraige Care and is run by the Catholic Church. Although I belong to the Church of England there Counsellor has been lovely. I have tried to make amends to all this, but it seems the more I give the less I get back. To be truthful he has become lazier than ever. I look after Shannon all day but now she goes to Nursery on Tuesday and Wednesday morning, I do all the housework, shopping etc and go to work in the evenings and alternate weekends. I am burnt out. He works during the day but when he gets home his laptop and fiddling about on the internet is more important. I held on for so long. I had a glimpse of hope but he's tken that away from me. I guess it's partly because he wont try to sort out our problems with me or even try to get help. I am upset most of the time. This morning I yellled at him. I said so many hurtful things which I know is not very Christian like but it doesn't matter how calmly and nice you speak to him he doesn't listen and doesn't answer a question if you ask him one. At one time we wanted to move to Australia (right now we are living in Peterborough, United Kingdom) but I don't see how that will ever happen. All I want is to be happy if it's without him thats fine. I know it will be difficult but living life like this is stressing me out and its no good for my little one. Our hearts are hard against each other but initially we will seperate and then who nows. I don't want to say the D word but if he isn't going to wake up and see what God has given him thats what will probably happen. I know your known as I kind of Angel to others but please keep this dilemma in your prayers. Thanks so much. God Bless You.

Leander, are you sure you hate HIM or do you just hate the things he does and the way he treats you? There is a difference. As Christians we have to try to separate the sin from the sinner. Hate the sin but love the sinner. Just today I became angry with my husband. Sometimes he really knows how to push my buttons! But I know the truth and his barbed words no longer hold the sting they once did. All I am concerned about is that GOD knows the truth and that I am in right standing with Him. Nobody elses opinion matters. The Lord knows my heart. Tonight when I came home from work, instead of still being angry with my husband as I might have been in the past, I was concerned that he didn't feel well. I could not change my husband over the years but I COULD change my reaction to the things he says and does. I still sometimes get angry with him as I did today. But it doesn't last the way it used to. I have learned to change what I can and put what I can't change in Gods hands. Maybe knowing this will help you to know why I do understand your pain frustration and sorrw.

My Dear Leander, Your situation touches my heart in a way you could not know. It takes TWO to make a marriage work. I can see that you have been trying but you can't have a marriage alone. I hate to see you suffering and so stressed out all the time. If it affects me this why how much more do you think it breaks GOD's heart to see one of His dear children suffering? You are a jewel in God's heavenly crown! You are precious to Him. I am sure you have been praying for your husband. I will do the same....

Dear Heavenly Father, Open Brents eyes to the truth. Reveal to him what a blessing he has in his family. Open his heart. Soften his heart. Restore communication in this marriage. Bring peace. Rekindle the love flame to grow stronger than ever. Replace anger with forgiveness. Replace unkindness with kindness. Replace resentment with a new commitment to YOU and to each other. Replace nasty words with words of love. Let Brent know exactly what he will be losing if he doesn't turn his life and attitude around. Bless Leander with a forgiving attitude. Calm her spirit. Help her to not let unkind words pierce her heart. Help her to heap coals of fire upon Brents head by repaying meanness with kindness! Strengthen Leander and bless her with happiness. She will always have YOU!!!! That is enough to be happy about. She has her ticket to Heaven. Help both Brent and Leander to put YOU first in their lives and their marriage will follow. I ask this in faith, believing without doubt, in Jesus' name! AMEN!!!!