Testimony

I don’t know how to start this, but I need God and prayer. My wife had an affair and does not understand how I hurt so bad inside. She says that it’s in the past, she has confessed it to God, and I just need to get over it. We are going to marriage counseling, but it is just rehashing old hurts and feelings. I say I have forgiven her, and I have been praying to God to let the hurt go and let me forget. This has not worked, and I am being accused of not forgiving her and letting go of what she did. I can’t even do my job at work, and I am very close to being in very big trouble there. I have tried taking antidepressants, drinking, and pretending that everything is OK. Nothing is working, and I have hit the bottom. Even immersing my self in church activities is not working; in fact it harder working with the wonderful women there that I wish my wife was like. My pastor told me that I have to extend grace to her, but I am getting nothing in return. I need a miracle to heal my spirit, marriage, family, and work. Please pray for me.

Man of God,
I hear your heart. But let's really evaluate what's really going on. Your wife has admitted her errors and has confessed them to you and Christ. Therefore, Christ has forgiven her and she is free. Now let's talk about you. Forgiveness is a choice and a DECISION. Meaning, it doesn't happen over night but the Spirit of the Lord is able to walk with you through this process. For you to turn to drinking and other wordly solutions, I am concerned about your relationship with the Lord. Where are you in Christ to to use wordly solutions? Who are you associating with? Who are you discussing your problems with? And have you fully given your LIFE and HEART to the Lord yourself? It sounds like you have not surrendered EVERYTHING to him. Think about it.
Your are the head of the household. You are the example for her to follow. How can she follow if you are
"luke warm" and have not given up on old habbits. I believe that when things happened in your past, you have wordly ways were solutions.Therefore, when this happen with your wife, you AGAIN turned to wordly solutions. The word of GOd says for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church.
B. Remember: Think about how God had to forgive you over again and again for you past ways. I pray God takes you back to memory lane from time to time so that you can walk in the same compassion.
C. Overall, the major problem is that you blame yourself for your wife's affair and you really have not forgiven YOURSELF. Therefore, this issue is really not about her, it is about you. Ask God for the strength to forgive yourself.
D. You need to find a Godly man in your life who can be your Mentor and Accountability partner. You need someone to challenge you and keep you accountable. Accountability is Priceless. Your accountablity partner should pray with you and talk with you on an going basis.

E. Stay encourage. Take hold to God's and Trust HIM.
Evaluate all that you are able to do. Use your Godly resources that are all around you. Trust me, you have them.

Wisdom