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Dear God, please guide me now as my wife wants to leave again after now ruining another alcohol rehab (within 3 days of release). You have promised me in Spirit that You will guide my steps, and I should not fear. Please, I count mightily on that promise now. Please show me Your Will as I try to follow it. If separation or even divorce is really necessary, then guide me righteously as to how to be, do, think, and speak in all that will happen.
When she first drank heavily again, I confronted her about the bottle(s) (she surrendered some of them, but had one more hidden) and the relationship with the priest she had been having sex with (she lied at first, but then told me she had 2 meetings with him in 4 days since rehab).
I have gotten him to back off of sexually abusing her any more for now by a long phone call with him myself, and talking to 2 of his priest friends to tell him to cut off contact with her. So far they say he has agreed.
I need discernment now, Lord, on whether to go to the diocese now or soon to report him and really stop this, at the risk of setting off my wife and being the catalyst for getting her fired from her church job. I fear a physical attack only some, as she had tried that twice years ago. The church job is the only thing that seems to have meaning to her now. I pray for discernment now, Lord, on how to really do the right thing by her and all those affected, from my family, the priest and the deacon and the 2 other men she had sex with (both people at church), their families, those where I work with who have to put up with me and help me, and all of the innocent parties that I cannot even count, especially those touched at church by the evil that can reside there when people do not follow God's Laws or God's Will. Please guide and protect me at work, Lord, as it soon may be the main earthly thing I have left that gives me a will to live and keep up contact with my family. I cannot take being destitute and lose my job over something like this -- I did not know 31 years of marriage could come to this, especially because of "church" immorality.
She has alienated our sons and her brother. I told her that when she was drinking again on Saturday after rehab, and that has produced this fury now in her, even though she has been dry since then. (She blames me for telling that or maybe "causing" that). I was trying to tell her that to motivate her to quit, but she has resumed hating me again since I told her. I did pray for guidance Lord, prior to that, and I thought I was following Your Will. The results look really poor right now. However, I trust in Your Will and how You have helped events to unfold, and please guide my steps to be loving, in Your Ways.
This is a crisis, though, and although I am keeping the thought foremost not to fear, please guide me in ways that show me I must not fear. I her heart will not change of her own free will, please change mine if that what is needed. I feel I am walking in Your Ways despite the nasty turn here, and I pray for You to help me through this test.
Thank You, Lord, for protecting my sons in all of this. I praise You for the help and guidance You have provided me in raising them. Please do all possible to help them in life, now that they are adults and on their own, according to Your Will, and the same for my brother and sister and their families, and her brother and his family, and all of my extended family and prayer partners and friends. Thank You for my help at work, and especially bless those there, who have helped me greatly over the last 2 1/2 years.
Thank all of you reading this for listening to me and praying for me.
Your brother in Christ, and I hope to really follow in His guidance,
Frank C.
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I am sorry I have not answered your very kind "off the prayer line" messages. I have a boyfriend who is extemely jealous and suspicious.
Frank... my prayers have never ceased for you and your wife..I think you know that..I am sorry if it had to come to this.. it may, however, be the best...I know that sounds harsh and cruel but, I am about to walk away from my situation...to save my life and Frank, I am sorry but... you may have to do the same to not let yourself go farther down. Frank...it may also help to snap your wife out of her dilemma.
Frank, if you read my most recent prayer on this line...it has become extremely dangerous now...he told me again and again tonight that he would do the same thing to me again.... I told him I can no longer cover his back with the police and state's attorney... I have to press charges... and I have put myself in more grave danger but if he will do it again to me...he will do it to some one else.
Frank I hope the abusers in your wife's situation get caught and pay their dues... I am sorry though Frank...as an alcoholic and an abused person myself I have to say she can no longer blame her drinking habits, adultery and abuse (emotionially) on you..or any one for that matter...she (just as I am) is responsible for the choices she makes. PLEASE Frank...do not let any of this make you feel down about yourself or what you may have done.
Please keep in touch, please feel good about you. God bless you!
In Jesus' Precious and Holy Name I pray AMEN
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